[Rant]

Guys flirt with me all the time. I'm not being conceded or full of myself, it happens. I'm a small blonde girl, very nice and polite till you actually get to know me. Naturally I get a lot of attention, a large amount of it being unwanted. I've learned to accept it for the most part after absolutely hating it for years. However, certain things remain that piss me off. If you cat-call me to get my attention, you are automatically denied. I understand you find me attractive and you want to express that, but there are far more appropriate ways to send that message that don't include objectifying me. When I ignore you, don't get offended as if I'm required to give you some sort of response. I'm not. You're being disrespectful and deserve nothing. If you go around doing everything for me, not letting me lift a finger,  you're done. I am independent and self reliant. I will ask for your help if I need it. If not, leave me alone. I understand you're trying to be nice, but it makes me feel like a burden and as if I can't take care of myself. Which I can. Quite well actually, and I don't need you to tell me so. I know far better than you what I'm capable of. Also, compliments, while nice, are not the way to my heart. Anyone can use their words to make someone feel better about themselves. That doesn't make you special. Learn what makes me different. Put some effort into it. Try a little harder. I'm not shallow, I'm not easy, I like to make you think. I'll test you. I won't make it easy. I want to see just how far you'll go. I want to see how long it takes you to deviate from your usual pick-up lines and usual strategies to get to me. I'm a lot to hold on to and I won't make it easy. I can give you everything I am. I will offer myself to you on a silver platter. I will do whatever it takes to get you to trust me. I don't do a whole lot in the way of self preservation. I will go to the ends of the earth for the people I care about. Abuse it and you're probably done. There is one person who has bounced back from that and that is because he knows me inside and out. He doesn't push me, he knows what to do to keep from pissing me off. He knows what I like, how to keep me happy and how to talk me down. He may fuck up, he may do the things that can easily drive me away, but he knows enough of the flip side to always get me back, even when he doesn't mean to. Be that guy. Do it by accident. Find someone to care about and do everything you can for them. If you fuck up, apologize. Don't anything, just let them know you fucked up. Don't wait to be told, just do it. Be honest. Communicate. Don't be a fucking piece of shit. It's not hard. I promise you it's not. And if it is, one of you needs to grow up. It's that simple. People do change. What may be wrong now may be right later on. Follow your gut. Don't give up.